You're out to lunch with your girlfriend and the news isn't good.. "I think I'm having problems at home.. I feel sick.."
When a close friend confides in you... what should you say?
Perhaps the person in question is also a close friend.. or what if a serious illness is involved.. or a teen that's in trouble?
We've all been there... you want to help.. but how?
It's tough to recognize when a friend needs space or wants contact. Maybe they say "leave me alone" but really need your friendship.
How do we know if we are crossing the line??
Try not to judge.. hold back on a quick comment.. give it some thought.. speak easy.
Become a good listener.. essential for true friendship in my book!
It might be best to stay neutral... encouraging strength without dependence. Focus on positive life events and things that bring little pleasures to daily living.
Keep it confidential...show trust. It' saddens me to hear the neighborhood gossip when something goes wrong. I despise those that chatter about others, using a human tragedy as a platform for themselves to express their righteousness.
Choose words carefully. Be there when she needs someone to talk to, trying not to exceed personal boundaries. Give her space, call, send a card, check in. Treat friends as you would like to be treated. Help her to think CLEARLY..
Life is a journey with twists and turns. Resilience, faith, hope must prevail.
What would you say?
I'm posting early this week because we are squeezing in a last minute getaway for a few days. My computer is coming along :) so I will be staying in touch. Enjoy the rest of your week!